I owe a great deal of apology to all my viewers and my followers. I have been hoping to drop some articles but I was just short of things to write about. I have been wanting to please you with my articles so I got a little something that applies to if not all, some of us. Today’s article will be based on bullying.
At some point in life we all have tendencies to be bullied or bully people so I’m going to drop two different articles on bullying. The title of the articles are as follows:
- Why you get bullied .
- How to deal with bullies.
Before we go into the subtopics let’s define bullying with little examples.
Bullying is the aggressive or forceful act that makes use of threat to dominate or intimidate someone or something. It is also a repeated and habitual act that can be physical, verbal, relational or online. This act often occurs among teenagers and adolescents. They also occur among adults and little children.
Bullying is an act that brings self confidence and esteem to its roots. It makes you feel bad about yourself and worry that you are not good enough. It discourages people in every way. Many cases of suicide have been reported among secondary school students due to the effects of bullying on them. Some of them can’t handle it so they feel the best way is for them to end their lives. It’s best to “be buddies and not bullies” to avoid guilt.
Why you get bullied.
A lot of people do not understand why they are bullied. To deal with bullies you need to know the reason for them bullying you. Different people bully for different reasons but some are major, common and important.
- You get bullied because you are better than others. Most people often bully people because you are better than them and they don’t want it to be so. When a person is known for truth, honesty, beauty and brains he or she can be bullied. Insecurities and jealousy also fall under this factor. The fact that you are better sometimes makes potential bullies feel insecure. I had friends who bullied me from primary five to jss1 and I tell you it was hell for me. They used to Insult me very frequently and if I tried to fight back they sometimes beat me. You never want to be bullied by anyone at all.
- Your financial status. A lot of rich people take advantage of the fact that someone is less privileged than they are to turn them into their slaves or someone they can insult anyhow. Although not all rich people dothis but some do and it is the majority.
- Some bully not because they are insecure but because they can. Abuse of power is sometimes inevitable. Because of this people who are in power use it to bully others. This can happen in any place.
- Because you have no friends. When people notice you have no friends around you become very vulnerable to bullies and you become their play thing.
Actually let’s now talk a little about the bullies. Not everyone comes from good homes and have proper home training. Sometimes, parents are responsible for the act of bullying carried out by their children. They sometimes Insult and curse them that they begin to settle for what you limit them to that’s why as parents you should be careful what you say and do to your children because it matters a lot as little as it may seem. This recent limitations made by the parents to their children make them feel less of them selves and bully others to let it out.
Sometimes also, the people who bully you are bullied to. As we see in the video, two of the girls who were among the bullies disliked them bullying page but they were also been bullied to bully her so they were kind of in a tight situation.
How to deal with bullies.
Each bully is unique because of their reason and their style. So here’s a video .
So first to deal with any problem at all, you must first examine and understand the problem in order to solve it so let’s apply that here.
Dealing with bullies takes alot of courage and guts so my first advice for you that wants to get rid of a bully for good is to be prepared, ready and courageous. Let’s move on now.
- To deal with your bully you have to be courageous. The thing is if you are bold and tell them straight to stop bullying you if they refuse which they would it is because they do not take you seriously. So you have to make them do so to get them off you.
- Have good friends who can help you stand up to them and support you. This is because if a “loner” is bullied he bears it all alone and there is no friend to help him and support him. That is why students commit suicide, because they feel like thay are all alone.
- Give them a reason or reasons as the case may be to stop bullying you. To make them stop you have to show them that whatever they do won’t bring you down or hurt you. Make them grow bored of bullying you I tell you that if they loose their interest, they will stop bullying you.
- I know this it going to be weird or crazy but befriend them. Don’t get Soo carried away with getting your revenge on them that you become a bully yourself. Some of them need friends, good friends to help them.
If probably all this above mentioned things don’t work out, you can prey the problem away. God really does answers prayers.
Say no to bullying. It only takes one person to inspire the others. We children of the world are all the same . No matter our different skin color or language. Police brutalism, tribalism and racism are also forms of bullying affecting the world today. If we all see each other alike we will be like a United family.
I am really sorry haven’t posted anything in Soo long I hope you enjoyed this post if you did kindly comment, like, share and follow my blog.
Never forget we are all the same. No matter our language, skin color side of the world we come from or where we live we are all the same.
